Your Marketing Might Be Teaching Customers How to Treat You

I saw a real estate sign recently that said “FOR SALE” and it got me thinking about how many tiny marketing decisions businesses make without realizing they’re making them.

Of course the house is for sale. We know that.

But what if the sign said “AVAILABLE”?

Same house. Same owner. Same asking price. But it feels slightly different to me. “For sale” tells me what you’re doing. “Available” tells me I still have an opportunity to get something.

Maybe it makes absolutely no difference to you. That’s fine. This isn’t really an article about real estate signs anyway.

It’s about how many businesses claim to understand marketing while seemingly never thinking about this stuff.

I see the same thing with “free” and “complimentary.” Sometimes free is exactly the right word. If I’m selling something inexpensive and trying to generate an immediate response, FREE might work incredibly well. But if you’re charging thousands of dollars for a professional service, do you really want to keep reminding people that the first interaction with your expertise has no value?

Maybe. Maybe not.

At least think about it.

That’s the part that interests me. Good marketing isn’t having a list of fancy words you substitute for ordinary ones. It’s understanding that every word, image and interaction creates a little perception in someone’s head.

I see this constantly with websites.

There’s a form asking for my name, phone number and email. At the bottom is a big button that says SUBMIT.

Who is that word for?

I don’t want to submit anything. I want an appointment. I want an estimate. I want someone to tell me what my house is worth.

“Submit” is what the software needs me to do. It has nothing to do with why I’m there.

This stuff sounds ridiculously small until you start adding it all together.

The website says “free consultation.” The ad screams “$500 OFF.” The salesperson immediately tells me there’s room on the price. The email offers another discount if I act by Friday.

Then six months later the owner tells me their biggest problem is that customers only care about price.

Well…

You spent six months teaching them to care about price.

That’s where I think marketing gets much more interesting than advertising.

If everything you put into the world talks about discounts, don’t be surprised when people negotiate with you. If every ad says you’re the cheapest, don’t be surprised when customers leave the moment somebody else becomes cheaper.

You trained them.

And it works the other way too.

There are restaurants where nobody asks why a steak costs $70. There are hotels where people happily pay $800 for a room that contains a bed, television and shower just like the hotel down the street charging $189.

Somehow, long before the credit card comes out, those businesses have taught us that comparing them solely on price would be missing the point.

That’s marketing.

And it doesn’t stop when somebody becomes a customer.

Actually, this might be where most businesses screw it up.

You see an ad for some expensive service. The photography is beautiful. The website looks incredible. Everything talks about personal attention and exceptional service.

So you fill out the form.

Four hours go by.

Nothing.

The next morning someone calls and says, “Hey, you filled something out on our website?”

There went the brand.

All that work trying to convince me this was an exceptional company and one person erased it in about eight seconds.

I’ve become increasingly convinced that the receptionist is part of the marketing department whether anyone told her or not.

So is the person sending invoices.

So is whoever answers emails.

So is the guy who designed the waiting room.

So is the person who decided customers need to print out a PDF, sign it, scan it and email it back in 2026.

They’re all marketing.

That’s why I find it funny when businesses tell me how much they spend on marketing but treat all of these things as operations.

Customers don’t know which department they’re interacting with. They don’t care.

They just know how the business made them feel.

Realtors are another great example.

Spend five minutes looking at real estate advertising and you’ll see “Neighborhood Expert” everywhere.

I’ve always thought the better approach would be to actually demonstrate that you know the neighborhood so well that I come to that conclusion myself.

Tell me why houses on one side of a particular street sell for more. Tell me which renovations buyers in that neighborhood actually care about. Tell me about the restaurant around the corner that someone moving there wouldn’t know about.

If you really are the neighborhood expert, why are you wasting valuable space telling me?

Show me something only the neighborhood expert would know.

This applies to almost everything.

If you have to constantly tell people you’re luxurious, I’m probably going to start wondering if you are.

If you keep telling me you’re trustworthy, eventually I’m going to wonder why trust needs to be mentioned so often.

If every post says you care about your customers, I’d rather just see what happens when one of them has a problem.

Maybe the best marketing is getting people to reach the conclusion you wanted without ever explicitly telling them what to think.

That’s a very different skill from making social media graphics.

And I think that’s what gets lost when everybody with Canva and an Instagram account suddenly becomes a marketing expert.

Marketing isn’t posting.

It isn’t changing “free” to “complimentary” either.

It’s understanding why one might work better than the other, for this particular customer, selling this particular thing, at this particular moment.

Sometimes “free” will win.

Sometimes “complimentary” will.

Sometimes “FOR SALE” might outperform “AVAILABLE.”

There are no magic words.

There is just an enormous difference between choosing a word because everybody else uses it and choosing it because you understand what you want someone to feel when they read it.

Once you start looking at marketing that way, you see it everywhere.

And you also start noticing how many businesses have absolutely no idea what they’re teaching their customers.

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If a City Wants My Money, Why Is It So Hard to Give It to Them?

I was thinking recently about one of the strangest contradictions in local government.

Cities collect money from residents and businesses all day long. Water bills, permit fees, business licenses, parking tickets, code violations, recreation fees, inspection fees and probably another dozen things I’m forgetting.

You would think that with all that money changing hands, cities would have become unbelievably good at accepting it.

Yet somehow paying a city can still feel like you’re trying to complete a financial transaction in 1987.

Depending on where you live and what you’re paying, you might need to mail a check, obtain a certified check, find a particular office inside City Hall or physically show up during business hours. Maybe you have to park in a garage, walk several blocks or, my personal favorite, actually pay for parking so you can go inside a government building and pay the government more money.

Then you get to the counter and sometimes encounter someone who acts as though your arrival has ruined an otherwise perfectly good afternoon.

Why?

You’re there to give them money.

If there were ever a moment in the relationship between a city and its residents that should be incredibly easy, this would seem to be it.

Businesses Learned This a Long Time Ago

Think about how much effort private companies put into removing friction from the moment of payment.

Amazon remembers your credit card. Restaurants bring handheld terminals to the table. Apple lets you buy something by double-clicking a button on your phone. Uber made paying for a ride almost invisible. You get out of the car and walk away.

There’s a reason companies obsess over this stuff. Every unnecessary step is another opportunity for someone to become frustrated, abandon the transaction or think differently about the business.

Government doesn’t have quite the same problem. You can’t exactly abandon your water bill because the checkout experience was annoying and switch to another water provider.

And maybe that’s precisely why the experience hasn’t received enough attention.

A business has to make things easy because you can leave. A city knows you can’t.

That’s not a particularly good reason to provide a worse experience. If anything, I think it creates an even greater responsibility to provide a good one.

Paying Is Part of the City’s Brand

When cities talk about branding, the conversation usually involves logos, colors, slogans, websites, welcome signs and tourism campaigns.

I think that’s an incredibly narrow definition of a brand.

Ask someone how they feel about their city and I doubt their answer has much to do with the logo.

Their opinion was built through hundreds of little experiences.

They called about a pothole and somebody actually answered. They pulled a permit and it took three weeks longer than promised. They signed their child up for summer camp. They attended an event in the park. They disputed a parking ticket. They called the water department. They tried to open a business. They walked into City Hall and asked a question.

Those interactions are the brand.

And paying the city is one of those interactions.

Imagine spending $100,000 on a new municipal identity promising that your community is innovative, welcoming and business-friendly, then telling a business owner they need to bring a certified check to a particular office between 9 a.m. and 4 p.m.

Which message do you think they’re going to remember?

The City Can’t Always Make the Bill Pleasant. It Can Make Paying It Pleasant.

There is an important distinction here.

Nobody enjoys getting a parking ticket.

Nobody gets excited about paying a permit fee.

A water bill isn’t going to become the highlight of someone’s day because the payment portal has attractive typography.

The city doesn’t control the emotional baggage that comes with every transaction.

It absolutely controls what happens next.

If someone owes $150, let them pay the $150 in 30 seconds from their phone.

Let them use Apple Pay or Google Pay. Let them securely save a payment method. Let them scan a QR code on the notice. Let them receive an immediate confirmation that clearly says what they paid and what happens next.

Don’t make them create an account with a password containing three capital letters, two Egyptian hieroglyphics and the name of their first-grade teacher just to give you money.

And if someone genuinely needs to visit City Hall, that experience shouldn’t feel like punishment either.

Parking should be obvious. Directions should be clear. The person behind the counter should understand that they aren’t simply processing a transaction. For a few minutes, they are the entire city government to the person standing in front of them.

That matters.

Even the Receipt Is an Opportunity

This is where my marketing brain starts wondering why cities waste so many little opportunities.

Imagine someone just paid their annual business license fee.

The typical confirmation might say something like:

PAYMENT RECEIVED
TRANSACTION #3847291
AMOUNT: $247.00

Perfectly functional.

But why couldn’t it also say:

“Thank you for doing business in our community.”

Or after someone pays a recreation fee:

“We’ll see you at the park!”

Maybe a longtime resident paying a water bill gets a simple thank you for being part of the community.

Nothing cheesy. Nothing that feels like propaganda. Just a little humanity.

Companies spend fortunes trying to create these tiny moments because they understand that experiences accumulate.

Cities already have the moments. They just don’t do much with them.

There Is Also a Compliance Argument

Making payment easier isn’t simply about being nice.

It should help the city accomplish what it wanted in the first place: getting paid.

If a bill can be paid immediately from a phone, some people will pay it immediately.

If paying requires finding the checkbook, buying a stamp and remembering to put an envelope in the mail tomorrow, you have introduced several opportunities for procrastination.

The same is true of a complicated online portal. Every login, form field and confusing instruction creates friction.

I’ve always found it strange when organizations complain about late payments while maintaining payment systems that seem almost designed to produce them.

Before sending another reminder notice, maybe try making the original bill ridiculously easy to pay.

Business Owners Notice This Stuff

This matters even more when cities say they want to attract entrepreneurs and investment.

Imagine somebody opening their first business in town.

They’ll probably interact with the city multiple times before opening the doors. Zoning questions, permits, inspections, licenses, utilities and fees.

Those aren’t administrative details from the business owner’s perspective. They’re the first experiences that person has doing business with the community.

A city can put “BUSINESS FRIENDLY” across its economic development website in 72-point type.

If opening a business requires four trips to City Hall and three certified checks, the entrepreneur is going to form a different opinion.

You don’t tell someone you’re easy to do business with.

You make doing business with you easy.

I Would Treat Every Payment Like a Customer Experience

If I were evaluating a city’s resident experience, I’d start by making a list of every situation in which someone has to give the city money.

Then I’d actually try each one.

Not from a government computer. From a phone.

How many clicks does it take?

Can I understand what I owe?

Can I pay without creating an unnecessary account?

Are modern payment methods accepted?

Are the fees clearly disclosed?

Do I immediately know the payment went through?

Can I easily find the receipt six months later?

What happens if something goes wrong?

And for transactions that genuinely require an in-person visit, I’d walk through that experience too. I’d park where a resident parks, enter through the same door, wait in the same line and speak to the same counter.

Cities conduct studies on far more complicated things.

This one could probably be accomplished in an afternoon.

Make the Easy Things Easy

Not every problem in local government has a simple solution.

Infrastructure is complicated. Housing is complicated. Public safety is complicated. Economic development is complicated.

Accepting money isn’t.

That’s what makes unnecessary friction around payments so frustrating. This is one of the relatively easy things to improve, and improving it touches an enormous number of residents and businesses.

Maybe the goal should be ridiculously simple: if someone is ready to pay the city, make that moment effortless.

And while you’re at it, make it pleasant.

Because every interaction teaches residents something about the place they live.

Even the receipt.

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What a Hotel Bathrobe Can Teach You About Marketing

I don’t think anyone has ever booked a hotel because of the bathrobe. You might care about the location, the view, the pool, the restaurant, the size of the room or whether they have those horrible resort fees. The robe is probably somewhere around number 147 on the list.

Yet there’s something about getting out of the shower in a nice hotel and putting on that giant white bathrobe that changes the experience. Suddenly you’re walking around the room differently. Maybe you order room service. You sit by the window drinking coffee. For some reason a hotel bathrobe can make an otherwise normal person feel like they own a vineyard and are waiting for their attorney to finish reviewing the paperwork from a very important acquisition.

It’s silly, but that’s exactly why I find it interesting.

The robe doesn’t actually make the hotel room better. It doesn’t improve the mattress. It doesn’t make the room larger or give you a better view. In fact, if the hotel quietly removed the robes before you arrived, there’s a pretty good chance you wouldn’t complain because you probably weren’t expecting to use one in the first place.

But once it’s there, it contributes to the feeling that you’re somewhere a little special.

Hotels are unusually good at this. Think about all the little things that have almost nothing to do with renting a room for the night. The ridiculously heavy lobby doors. The smell when you walk inside. The lighting. The music playing somewhere that you can’t quite locate. The way the towels are folded. The glass your drink comes in at the bar.

Go to a really nice hotel and someone has thought about almost all of it.

Then think about how most companies approach marketing. We spend an incredible amount of time thinking about what we’re going to tell people. What’s the headline? What’s the slogan? What should the website say? What are we going to post on social media?

Those things matter, obviously. I make a living thinking about many of them. But I sometimes wonder whether we’re spending too much time trying to tell customers what kind of company we are and not enough time giving them little reasons to reach that conclusion themselves.

There’s a big difference between a business telling you it’s high-end and experiencing something that feels high-end.

This doesn’t necessarily mean spending a lot of money either. I’ve been to expensive restaurants where everything technically looked beautiful but something about the experience felt cold. I’ve also been to inexpensive little places where someone remembers your name, brings you something you didn’t order because they thought you’d like it, or packages something in a way that makes you smile when you open it.

Those things become part of the product even though they’re not technically the product.

Cities do this too, although they don’t usually think of it as marketing. A city can spend money developing a new logo and come up with a slogan about being a great place to live, work and play. Nearly every city seems to be a great place to live, work and play according to its own website.

But imagine arriving in that same city and finding beautiful landscaping, clean streets, interesting public art, comfortable benches, flowers, good lighting and storefronts that look cared for. You don’t need the slogan anymore. You’re already forming an opinion.

The opposite works just as quickly. You can have the greatest branding campaign in the world, but if the first thing someone sees after exiting the highway is weeds, faded signs and an abandoned shopping center, the weeds are probably going to win the branding argument.

That’s why I keep coming back to the bathrobe.

Every business probably has its own version of one. Some small, seemingly unnecessary detail that doesn’t appear in the main sales pitch but changes how the customer interprets everything around it.

Maybe it’s how you answer the phone. Maybe it’s what happens immediately after someone buys. It could be your packaging, your waiting room, the way an employee greets someone, or something so minor nobody in the company has thought about it in years.

I think it would be an interesting exercise for a business to forget about its logo and advertising for an afternoon and walk through the entire customer experience looking for those things.

What’s your bathrobe?

And perhaps more importantly, what’s the equivalent of a cheap scratchy towel that is quietly undoing everything your advertising promised?

Because customers probably aren’t separating all these things as neatly as we do.

To them, it’s all the hotel.

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How to Use AI in Marketing Without Losing What Makes Your Brand Unique

Everyone is talking about how AI is changing marketing. I think we’re talking about the wrong problem.

The issue isn’t that businesses are using AI. The issue is that they’re using it exactly the same way.

Scroll through LinkedIn or Facebook today and you’ll notice a pattern. Holiday graphics, inspirational images, polished illustrations, and perfectly composed visuals that all have the same unmistakable AI aesthetic. Individually, many of them look impressive. Collectively, they become invisible.

This is one of the oldest lessons in marketing.

When everyone adopts the same tactic, the tactic stops creating differentiation.

Years ago, businesses relied on the same stock photography. Then everyone had the same smiling call center representative with a headset and the same staged boardroom handshake. Today, we’ve simply replaced stock photos with AI-generated images.

The technology changed.

The marketing mistake didn’t.

The brands that will benefit most from AI won’t be the ones producing the most AI content. They’ll be the ones using AI to amplify what already makes them different.

Customers don’t remember businesses because their graphics were beautiful.

They remember businesses because they stood for something, told a compelling story, demonstrated expertise, or made them feel something unique.

AI has made professional-quality design accessible to almost everyone. That’s remarkable.

But when beautiful graphics become abundant, they’re no longer the competitive advantage.

Original thinking is.

Authenticity is.

A distinct point of view is.

In the years ahead, I believe we’ll see a shift. Businesses that use AI to accelerate creativity will thrive. Businesses that use AI as a substitute for creativity will blend into an increasingly crowded sea of sameness.

Technology can make your marketing faster.

It still can’t make it memorable.

And in the end, memorable is what builds brands.

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The Fake Referral Trap: Why Astroturfing in Facebook Groups Is Killing Your Business

If you’ve been around marketing long enough, you’ve seen this before.

Someone posts in a Facebook group:

“Does anyone know a good website designer?”

A few minutes later, the comments start stacking up.

Same name. Over and over.

At first, it looks impressive. Like this person owns the space.

But then you look a little closer.

The profiles are weird.
The comments all sound the same.
And the person being recommended is sitting right there replying to every one of them.

That’s not demand.

That’s staged.

What’s Actually Going On

This is what people call astroturfing.

It’s when someone tries to fake word-of-mouth by using extra accounts, friends, or coordinated replies to make it look like they’re getting recommended.

The idea is simple: if enough people say your name, others will trust it.

And in Facebook groups, that matters. People go there specifically to ask for real opinions.

The problem is, fake always shows eventually.

Where It Falls Apart

Most people won’t break it down right away—but they notice when something feels off.

Maybe all the accounts look new.
Maybe they only show up in posts like this.
Maybe every comment sounds like it was written by the same person.

Then they see it happen again somewhere else.

Same question.
Same answers.
Same business.

That’s when it clicks.

And Once It Clicks, You’re Done

The second people realize it’s fake, everything flips.

Instead of thinking:

“This person must be good.”

They start thinking:

“Why are they faking this?”

And from there it only gets worse.

If the referrals aren’t real, what else isn’t?

Are the reviews real?
Are the results real?

Now you’re not just another option—they don’t trust you at all.

The Real Problem

This kind of stuff comes from thinking short-term.

Yeah, maybe it gets you a quick job.

But it also leaves a trail.

People take screenshots.
Admins notice patterns.
Groups talk.

And especially in local communities, that stuff spreads fast.

Once your name gets tied to something shady, it sticks.

The Part That Doesn’t Make Sense

You don’t actually need to do this.

If your work is solid, people will recommend you.

And if they’re not, that’s the real problem—not the marketing.

That’s something you fix with better service, better communication, or just doing better work.

Not fake accounts.

What Actually Works

The people who win in these groups don’t try to control the conversation.

They just show up consistently.

They answer questions.
They help people.
They don’t force it.

And over time, other people start bringing their name up on their own.

That’s what real referrals look like.

Bottom Line

If people realize your reputation is fake, you don’t just lose a lead.

You lose trust.

And in spaces like Facebook groups, trust is the whole game.

Once that’s gone, it’s a lot harder to get back than it was to build it the right way in the first place.

The Death of “Live, Work, Play” And Why Using It Today Signals a Lack of Imagination

At some point, “live, work, play” meant something.

It represented a shift—a new way of thinking about development. A break from the old model where people lived in one place, worked in another, and drove somewhere else for entertainment.

But that time has passed.

Today, when I see a new development proudly branded as “live, work, play,” I don’t see innovation.

I see creative laziness.

When Everything Is “Live, Work, Play”… Nothing Is

Walk through any new mixed-use project website—whether in Florida, New York, or just about anywhere in the country—and you’ll find the same three words.

Luxury apartments? “Live, work, play.”
Retail district? “Live, work, play.”
Rebranded office park? “Live, work, play.”

It has become the default setting for developers and marketers who either:

  • Don’t want to think harder
  • Don’t know how to differentiate
  • Or assume the audience won’t notice

But audiences do notice.

Even if they don’t consciously call it out, they feel it.

Because when every place promises the same thing, the promise loses all meaning.

It’s Not a Value Proposition. It’s a Baseline Expectation.

Here’s the uncomfortable truth:

“Live, work, play” is no longer a feature. It’s table stakes.

Of course people expect to live near where they work.
Of course they want walkability.
Of course they want restaurants, fitness, and entertainment nearby.

That’s not differentiation.

That’s 2026.

Using “live, work, play” today is the equivalent of a hotel saying it has air conditioning.

The Real Problem: It Signals a Lack of Strategy

When a project leads with “live, work, play,” it’s not just unoriginal.

It reveals something deeper:

There is no clear identity.

Because if there were, the messaging would answer something specific:

  • Who is this actually for?
  • What makes this place different from the one two miles away?
  • What emotional outcome does this environment create?

Instead, “live, work, play” becomes a placeholder for a strategy that was never developed.

Great Places Don’t Describe Categories. They Create Meaning.

The most successful developments don’t describe what they are.

They define what they feel like.

They don’t say:

“You can live, work, and play here.”

They say:

  • “This is where founders collide and build things that matter.”
  • “This is where empty nesters rediscover energy.”
  • “This is where weekends feel like vacations without leaving home.”
  • “This is where your kids grow up knowing your neighbors.”

That’s not semantics.

That’s positioning.

The Risk: Becoming Interchangeable

If your development sounds like every other development, it becomes interchangeable.

And interchangeable assets compete on one thing:

Price.

That’s a dangerous place to be.

Because when the market softens, the only levers left are discounts, incentives, and concessions.

And all of that could have been avoided with stronger positioning from the beginning.

What Developers Should Be Doing Instead

If I were advising a city, developer, or CRA today, I’d push for something far more intentional:

1. Define a Core Identity

Not demographics—identity.

Are you:

  • A wellness district?
  • A culinary hub?
  • A startup ecosystem?
  • A cultural corridor?

Pick one.

Own it.

2. Build Around a Signature Experience

What is the thing people talk about after they leave?

If nothing stands out, that’s the problem.

3. Create Language That Only You Can Use

If another project can copy your tagline and it still works, it’s not strong enough.

4. Design for Stories, Not Just Spaces

People don’t share square footage.

They share:

  • Moments
  • Discoveries
  • Identity

Build for that.

Final Thought

“Live, work, play” isn’t wrong.

It’s just irrelevant.

And in a world where every development is fighting for attention, relevance isn’t enough.

If you want to stand out, you have to say something that only you can say.

Otherwise, you’re not branding a place.

You’re just labeling it.

What The Warriors Teaches Us About Marketing, Narrative Control, and Why Truth Is Optional

Most people remember The Warriors for the face paint, the gangs, and the iconic “Can you dig it?” speech.

Marketers should remember it for something else entirely.

Because buried inside that film is one of the most accurate portrayals of how narratives spread, how false information becomes “truth,” and how quickly public perception can be weaponized.

This is not just a movie about gangs.

It is a masterclass in how belief is manufactured.

The Moment Everything Changes: Narrative Over Reality

At the center of the film is the assassination of Cyrus.

The shooter, Luther, doesn’t just pull the trigger. He immediately does something far more important:

He assigns blame.

He points at the Warriors’ leader and shouts that they did it.

And within seconds, that becomes reality.

No one verifies it.
No one investigates it.
No one questions it.

The crowd accepts the narrative instantly.

Marketing Lesson #1: The First Story Wins

In marketing, the first version of the story people hear becomes the default truth.

Even if it is wrong.
Even if it is later disproven.
Even if it collapses under scrutiny.

Because most people don’t update their beliefs—they defend their first impression.

This is called anchoring bias, and it is one of the most powerful forces in persuasion.

If you control the first narrative, you control the battlefield.

The Amplifier: Distribution Beats Accuracy

After the accusation, something even more powerful happens.

The story spreads.

Through the DJ, the message moves across the entire city. The Warriors are framed as targets. A bounty is implied. Every gang is now activated.

The radio does not question the story.

It amplifies it.

Marketing Lesson #2: Distribution Is More Important Than Truth

Most marketers obsess over crafting the perfect message.

But the truth is simple: reach beats refinement.

A mediocre message with massive distribution will outperform a perfect message nobody sees.

In The Warriors, the narrative didn’t need to be accurate. It needed to be everywhere.

That is how modern platforms work too:

  • Algorithms reward engagement, not accuracy
  • Virality favors emotion, not verification

If your message spreads, it wins.

Social Proof: When Everyone Believes, It Becomes Real

As the story spreads, something subtle but powerful happens.

Different gangs, in different parts of the city, all believe the same thing.

Not because they independently verified it.

But because they assume everyone else already has.

Marketing Lesson #3: Consensus Creates Truth

This is social proof in action.

When people see others believing something, they assume it must be true—even if all those people are referencing the same original (and false) source.

This creates an echo chamber effect:

  • One lie becomes many voices
  • Many voices create perceived validation
  • Perceived validation becomes “truth”

In marketing, this is why testimonials, reviews, and repetition matter so much.

People don’t just believe you.

They believe what they think everyone else believes.

Incentives: When Belief Becomes Action

The moment a reward is attached to the narrative, everything escalates.

Now it’s not just about belief—it’s about motivation.

Every gang now has a reason to accept the story without questioning it.

Marketing Lesson #4: Incentives Accelerate Belief

When people have something to gain, they stop asking whether something is true.

They start asking how quickly they can act on it.

This is why:

  • Limited-time offers work
  • Referral programs explode
  • Scarcity drives urgency

Incentives don’t just motivate action.

They reduce skepticism.

Authority Signals: Why the Radio Made It “Official”

The radio announcer plays a critical role.

She doesn’t present evidence. She doesn’t investigate.

But her tone, her platform, and her consistency make the story feel legitimate.

Marketing Lesson #5: Authority Is Perceived, Not Proven

Authority in marketing is rarely about credentials.

It is about signals:

  • Platform size
  • Confidence of delivery
  • Consistency of messaging

The radio felt official, so the message felt true.

Today, this role is played by:

  • Influencers
  • Verified accounts
  • News-style content
  • High-production videos

People don’t always ask, “Is this true?”

They ask, “Does this feel like something that would be true?”

Speed: The Weapon That Makes Everything Stick

What made the false narrative unstoppable was not just the lie.

It was the speed.

The accusation, the amplification, and the spread all happened before anyone could challenge it.

Marketing Lesson #6: Speed Beats Correction

By the time the truth has a chance to emerge, the damage is done.

This is why:

  • Crisis response must be immediate
  • Brands need real-time communication strategies
  • Silence often gets filled with someone else’s story

If you are not telling your story, someone else will—and they might tell it faster.

The Bigger Idea: Narrative Economics

What The Warriors really illustrates is something deeper:

Narratives have value.

They influence behavior.
They shape decisions.
They move groups at scale.

This is the foundation of narrative economics.

Stories drive markets more than data does.

That is why:

  • A rumor can crash a stock
  • A trend can create demand overnight
  • A brand story can outweigh product quality

People don’t just buy products.

They buy into narratives.

Final Thought: The Dangerous Power of a Good Story

The most unsettling part of The Warriors is not the violence.

It is how believable the situation is.

A false narrative spreads.
Authority amplifies it.
People accept it.
Incentives fuel it.

And suddenly, it becomes reality.

That is not fiction.

That is marketing.

The lesson is not just how to use these principles.

It is understanding how easily they can be used against you.

Because in the end, the question is not:

“Is it true?”

It is:

“Did it spread first?”

The Ugly Car Color Lesson: Why Your Customers Don’t Think Like You Do

I’ll admit it.

Every once in a while, I see a car on the road and think, “That is one of the ugliest colors I’ve ever seen.”

Not just mildly unattractive. I’m talking about that strange burnt orange. That muddy brown that somehow looks both metallic and dirty at the same time. That green that feels like it belongs on a 1970s kitchen appliance, not a modern vehicle.

And every time I see one, I have the same thought:

“Why would a dealership even offer that color?”

Then it hits me.

Because someone bought it.

 

The Dangerous Assumption Most Businesses Make

There’s a quiet assumption that creeps into almost every business decision:

“Our customers think like we do.”

They don’t.

Not even close.

And this is where companies get into trouble.

They design products they personally like.

They write messaging that sounds good to them.

They build experiences that make sense in their own heads.

Then they’re confused when the market doesn’t respond the way they expected.

 

The Car Color Reality Check

Car manufacturers don’t accidentally produce ugly colors.

They don’t sit in a room and say, “Let’s make something no one will want.”

Those colors exist because:

  • Enough people consistently choose them
  • Data shows there is real demand
  • There are psychological drivers behind those choices

In fact, those “ugly” colors often:

  • Stand out more in parking lots
  • Feel unique or expressive
  • Signal individuality over conformity
  • Trigger nostalgia for certain buyers

What looks irrational to you is completely rational to someone else.

 

The Psychology: People Don’t Choose “Best” –  They Choose “Theirs”

Here’s the core mistake:

Most businesses believe customers make decisions based on what is objectively best. They don’t.

Customers choose based on:

  • Identity (“This feels like me”)
  • Emotion (“I like how this makes me feel”)
  • Narrative (“This tells a story about me”)
  • Contrast (“I don’t want what everyone else has”)

That weird green car?

It might not be the “best” color.

 

But it might be:

  • The only one that feels different
  • The one that reminds someone of their first car
  • The one that stands out in a sea of white, black, and gray

And that’s enough.

 

Logical ≠ Chosen

This is where most marketers and founders get it wrong.

They optimize for logic.

Customers optimize for meaning.

You might think:

  • A neutral color has better resale value
  • A clean design appeals to more people
  • A simple message converts better

But your customer might think:

  • “I don’t care about resale, I want something I love now”
  • “That one feels boring”
  • “This one caught my attention”

The most logical option is often not the one people choose. 

 

The Projection Trap

There’s a cognitive bias at play here: projection.

We assume:

  • Others share our taste
  • Others value what we value
  • Others think through decisions the way we do

This leads to:

  • Overconfidence in bad ideas
  • Rejection of ideas that would actually work
  • Missed opportunities hiding in plain sight

If you would never buy a brown car, it’s easy to assume no one would.

That assumption costs companies money every day.

 

What This Means for Your Business

If you’re building, marketing, or selling anything, this lesson is critical:

  1. Your opinion is not the market: You are one data point. Not the dataset.
  2. “Ugly” might be profitable: If you personally dislike something, that doesn’t mean it shouldn’t exist. It might mean you’re not the target customer.
  3. Test what feels wrong: Some of the best-performing ideas feel uncomfortable at first. Because they weren’t designed for you.
  4. Embrace variety on purpose: Offering options that appeal to different identities is not a weakness. It’s a strategy.

 

The Bigger Insight

That ugly car color isn’t a mistake.

It’s proof. Proof that:

  • Markets are more diverse than we think
  • Taste is deeply personal
  • And people don’t make decisions the way we expect

The companies that win understand this.

They don’t design for themselves.

They design for reality.

The next time you see a car and think,

“Who would ever choose that?”

Remember:

That person exists.

They had a reason.

And they’re the reason that color is still being made.

And somewhere in your business right now,

there’s an “ugly color” you’re ignoring…

…that your customers are ready to buy.

The Most Ignored Marketing Moment in Ecommerce Is Also the Most Profitable

Every ecommerce founder obsesses over acquisition. They tweak creative, experiment with influencers, chase CPMs, optimize landing pages, and refresh targeting like it is a full-time sport. None of that is wrong, but it creates a strange blind spot that costs real money every single month.

The blind spot is not retargeting, not SMS, not post-purchase upsells. It is something far simpler:

The order confirmation email.

If you are in ecommerce, you already know the acquisition math. Buyers do not casually scan your site and checkout without emotion. Especially in categories where identity and self-image are involved, like swimwear. When someone buys a bikini, they are not just buying fabric. They are buying confidence at the beach, a version of themselves on vacation, a personality that exists in summer.

That emotional peak happens before the product arrives. It happens the minute they click “Confirm Purchase.” And that is when the standard Shopify receipt lands in their inbox and ruins the moment.

A bikini brand we worked with recently ran into this exact issue. Their marketing team was busy building out UGC, optimizing influencer whitelisting, refining Creative for Meta, and shipping new seasonal collections. They had a strong funnel and a loyal repeat base, but Lifetime Value growth had stalled.

Out of curiosity, we asked to see their order confirmation email. It was the template almost every store uses. Plain. Transactional. “Order received. Here is your number. Here is your tracking.”

No personality. No styling guidance. No expectation-setting. No education. No attribution insight. No cross-sell. No brand experience.

Why does this matter so much? Because the order confirmation email consistently has the highest open rates of anything an ecommerce brand sends. Not sometimes. Always. It is not unusual to see 65 percent, 75 percent, even 85 percent open rates depending on the category.

That level of attention is rare. And most brands throw it away.

So we rebuilt it.

We kept it short and human. We added a two-sentence thank you from the founder about confidence and body positivity. We added a section on when the order ships and how to track it. We added a “Before it arrives” section with styling tips, fit guidance for different body types, and care instructions for sustainable fabrics. Then we added something subtle but powerful: attribution.

We asked one question: “Where did you first hear about us?” with a single-click choice. That one line generated more reliable attribution data in a month than the brand had collected through surveys in a year.

To finalize the flow, we segmented based on buyer type. First-time customers received styling guidance and brand story. Returning customers were treated as VIPs and given early access to seasonal drops.

The result was not magic. It was predictable. Confirmation email revenue went from negligible to real monthly contribution without buying a single click of new traffic. CTR increased, LTV increased, and the brand discovered a new influencer channel driving 20 percent of new customers that they were previously ignoring.

The lesson is simple. Order confirmations are not paperwork. They are marketing assets. They are storytelling assets. They are data-collection assets. They are trust-building assets.

In a world where acquisition costs keep rising and buyers are cautious, ignoring the one message almost everyone always opens is not just wasteful. It is malpractice.

Buying Dinner and Buying Products: The Strange Social Choreography of Human Decision Making

There is a quiet ritual most of us participate in when the check arrives at a restaurant. One person says, “I’ll get it.” The other person responds by reaching toward their pocket and saying, “Are you sure?” Both parties already know how this ends. The first insists. The second retreats. The bill is paid. Everyone feels appropriately civilized.

If you were to describe this scene to a purely rational species from another planet, it would make no sense. Why pretend? Why ask a question no one actually intends to explore? Why perform a gesture with no functional purpose?

Because it is not about the money. It is about the script.

Humans maintain social harmony by managing dignity, reciprocity, and status. The fake wallet reach allows the receiver to maintain dignity without disrupting the giver’s status. The giver gets the glow of generosity. The receiver avoids looking selfish. Both preserve the social ecosystem.

This tiny moment is actually a blueprint for how humans buy things, choose services, and negotiate value in markets. It reveals three truths that most marketers and business owners continue to ignore.

The first is that people need emotional permission to accept value. We are wired to reciprocate, whether the exchange is dinner, information, or help. This is why “value first” strategies in marketing work. When a business educates, solves, or supports before asking for anything, it activates the reciprocity loop. We want to return the favor because imbalance makes us uncomfortable.

The second is that people need dignity. Most buying decisions are not just financial calculations, they are social ones. Will I feel foolish? Will I look gullible? Will I regret admitting I needed this? The reason guarantees, free trials, and “pause anytime” features increase conversion is not because they reduce financial risk, though they do, but because they protect self-image. They create a graceful escape hatch, the same way “Are you sure?” creates dignity in the dinner ritual.

The third is that people require scripts. Sales stalls not because the offer is bad, but because the customer does not know what they are supposed to do next. Onboarding, checkout flows, and pricing pages all suffer when the script is unclear. The moment a person needs to ask “What happens now?” friction appears. Friction kills momentum.

The irony is that humans often act emotionally and then rationalize logically. We are not calculators; we are storytellers. We buy a $300 shoe because of identity, then talk about arch support. We choose a car for the way it makes us feel, then justify it with gas mileage. We want the dessert, then announce we “deserve it.”

The truth is that the fake wallet reach at dinner is not an anomaly; it is a microcosm. It tells us that social behavior is not about accuracy, but about equilibrium. It is the same equilibrium people seek when they evaluate products, brands, services, and experiences.

If marketers and businesses paid closer attention to the dinner table, many would stop obsessing over funnels and instead design for psychology:

Give before asking, so reciprocity can activate.

Protect dignity, so people feel safe opting in.

Clarify the script, so momentum does not collapse.

Because at the end of the day, the only thing more important than the value of the offer is how a person feels about themselves while saying yes to it.